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No Drama Formula

Updated: Aug 1, 2022



We have cultivated this self-healing practice as we navigate the many aspects of modern life with the desire to be a better human. As a psychic medium, these conversations are channeled.




We could think of drama as a formula. There are certain elements required in order for there to be drama. Typically it involves more than one person, although we can definitely get dramatic with ourselves. But we can use this example as a drama between folks. Definitely more than one person.


There's one element to the formula conflict. Usually miscommunication, usually suppression of emotions that have gotten to a boiling point. Part of this contemplation, what we call it like a sub contemplation, where there's suppression, right, there's suppression of pain and then there's enduring pain, enduring it. That came forth as an example for us recently with a shoulder injury.


We were on this walk contemplating drama and that there is a correspondence that we have been avoiding because that correspondence could potentially lead to trauma. Thinking about the person that we would be corresponding with and feeling like at this moment there's just a ranking.


There's first-tier drama, second-tier drama, and third-tier drama. Every drama falls into those categories for us. Right now we're really just dealing with the first tier. Right now we're just putting all the resources into the biggest one in order to bring that drama to a conclusion. “How do you bring drama to a conclusion?



The reason why this shoulder injury has become serious is that we were suppressing the pain. We were suppressing the pain in the shoulder for the sake of work, for the sake of not stopping to take care of our body even though it's giving us a signal through pain like “Oh, it's fine, doesn't hurt that bad.”


I can still lift all these heavy things and go to boxing. But ultimately, yeah, it got worse. It got worse and now the shoulder is more painful because there was a period of suppression of pain, so now it is constant.


Luckily we have done a lot of work on ourselves and coming to a place where now the body and health are the priority and doing certain, now we're taking care of ourselves.


So we are addressing the shoulder injury and guess what? It is healing and that is amazing. This has been just yet another example of how pain is such an amazing teacher in the sense that it's certainly an indicator that something's off course if the pain is present.


Because in alignment, alignment is the absence of pain. Alignment is the presence and feeling of the joy that is naturally with you when you're in presence. Part of that awareness has grown from emotional intelligence.


From this place I've been able to understand the experience of pain and no longer need any lessons required is what we're saying to the universe now, hey, we got this one. No need to have any more manifestations. That is bringing to light our suppression of pain. It's not healthy.



What's enduring pain, however, right, how enduring felt different to us was that we were able to sit with the pain, breathe through the pain, learn from the pain, heal from the pain, and then release it and come back to the shoulder.


This is an example as I was trying to do a full rotation of my shoulder for some content that we're creating in a sun salutation type motion.


And because we were filming it, we were trying to do it accurately, but the current shoulder status is not a pain-free full shoulder rotation.


So we just took a deep breath and made the motion very slow and kept the breath moving, kept the video rolling, and for that brief moment, endured the pain of the shoulder.


But because my shoulder is healing, it actually wasn't that painful, and that's an amazing sign to witness within ourselves is like, “Whoa, that used to really hurt, and now it doesn't hurt, okay, we're healing.”


So, yeah, there may be moments to endure pain in order to see that you've uncovered what pain even is. It brought awareness to pain.


So that's why it's not as painful. Your awareness is the healing.



So even though it may still come up or steal healing from it, it's a resilience to endure pain because we understand how it's here for us as part of our human experiment.


It's another thing to suppress pain, which actually basically makes us sick, where disease can bring disease in all of our bodies of health, physical body, mental body, emotional body of health, we can suppress physical pain. We can suppress emotional pain.


That's pretty normalized. In fact, encouraged historically has been encouraged to suppress all pain, all feelings. Don't be unhappy.


It makes some folks uncomfortable to be around those who show emotions. I'm sure there's some sort of version of that story folks can relate to, certainly for ourselves.


I remember one time I was in high school, and I was heartbroken about a boy, and I was crying and in the bathroom, and my dad knocked on the door, and I answered, and he's like, “oh, sweetie, what's wrong?” so I'm like, crying and hyperventilating, crying and talking at the same time.


You all know what that was like, really? And then he said that he didn't look to me something like “that’s okay”, and my dad was just like, “it’s okay”.


At least that's the invitation, I suppose, for some, the idea of living without drama actually is a more frightful one because drama is perhaps what they understood about the world at an early age.


It's what they were taught and shown to be normal interactions. We certainly had a fairly consistently dramatic household, so that becomes programmed, and is it really a shocker that we then oftentimes seek out drama or create it?


But what's amazing, and one of our favorite spells right now is it is until it isn't. So even though that has been the programming, it is until it isn't.



Our deep, deep gratitude for these deep, deep contemplation and the deep, deep self-healing work that we've been doing to have this understanding and see the source of the drama and simply deconstruct it, deconstruct the formula with this new belief system.


That's what being in a constant state of drama or conflict or trauma can program into us. We also have the capacities to reprogram and reprogramming is in that unconscious mind.


They say sometimes we have a conscious mind and we have an unconscious mind, but that's where it goes down.


Inner energetic work to dismantle the belief systems and programming.


Perhaps you're curious as to what a more drama-free life would be like and perhaps that curiosity will inspire you enough to give this experiment a try with the no drama formula.








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